Don’t fall victim to your past. Use it to serve you.

Have you had a really unfortunate past? Are you still troubled by past events and you’re stopping yourself from living the life you truly want because you think this is how things should be for you?

let me share some experiences with you that will help you realise that everything happens for a reason. This may help some of you who are stuck in the past.

From a very early age I was brought up in very unfortunate circumstances. My mother was a drug addict and life was tough as you can probably imagine. At the age of 12 I was taken away from my mother and I went to live with my biological father and at the age of 13 I was sexually abused by him up until I was 16. His wife, who was unaware of the sexual abuse, abused me in a different way. She abused me psychologically. Life was awful, I contemplated suicide at the age of 14, attempted an overdose that failed and I was totally off the rails. At 16, after I had finished my GCSE’s I ran away from home and never looked back. My intuition told me that I needed to escape or things were going to get much worse. Thankfully I trusted my gut! Now at the age of 33 I can look back at my past without anger or bitterness as I now realise that my past has served me in a positive way. let me share how…

Unfortunate circumstances in early life help you grow as a person. They make you more compassionate towards others as you develop empathy – a skill in which you cannot learn, you either have it or you don’t and its a damn good quality to have. Dark times make you love more deeply, become better parents, make you less judgemental about others. They make you stronger, they allow you to become more sensitive towards others too and generally turn you into a better person all round. This is how your dark past serves you – if you allow it to.

There are a lot of people in the world who will use their past as a reason for all the wrong decisions they make in life. Some people become drug addicts, prostitutes, alcoholics or turn to a life of crime because of their past. What these people don’t realise is that no matter how unfortunate their circumstances, they have the power to change their future. 98% of adults know right from wrong. We are taught this from an early age either directly or indirectly through experiences. So why do so many people continue to make these bad decisions and wonder why their life is such a mess? It’s because they simply don’t understand how to make the right decisions or they simply don’t want to. They are stuck in this notion that living a bad life is all that they deserve as this is the way they have been conditioned. I’m speaking from experience here. I have been surrounded by these people my entire life. What has helped me over the years and lead me to living my greatest life is learning to trust my intuition

So many people don’t know how to do this. I’m here to teach you how. Have you ever made a decision that FELT so wrong but you did it anyway and everything started to fall apart around you? yes, me too! That’s because it FELT wrong. That gut feeling is there for a reason. Don’t ignore it. Learn to trust your intuition and it will guide you down the right path. Ignoring it and making the wrong decisions will more than likely lead you to disaster. What I have noticed and realised is that every time I made a wrong decision and ignored my intuition my life spiralled out of control and lead me down the wrong path. I ended up at a place that I didn’t want to be. It’s absolutely OK to make mistakes, it’s part of life, but allow yourself to reflect and grow. Don’t beat yourself up about your mistakes because ALL mistakes are just lessons that are there to teach us things. So every time you are faced with a decision allow your intuition to guide you. If it feels wrong don’t do it, if it feels right, go for it. There’s only you who can make that decision.

What has helped me over the years is learning that if you trust your intuition and make the right decisions, no matter how difficult they may be, the universe will get behind your decision and lead you to the exact place you’re supposed to be at that time in your life. Some people relate to the universe as ‘source’ or ‘god’. You can relate to this in any which way you choose. I truly believe that we are all guided and protected if we allow ourselves to be. When we open ourselves up, we live our truth and we trust our intuition then beautiful things can happen. We do not have to become victims of our lives. Life doesn’t just happen to you, it responds to you. You have the power within you to change things for the better. Most of our present circumstances are consequences of the decisions that we have made. I appreciate that there are some circumstances and situations that we cannot control but what we can control is how we respond.

You are the creator of your life. You have created your current path and you have the power to change it. If you have been through tragedy, use it to the greater good and help others, or perhaps use unfortunate circumstances as fuel for your success. You can literally take any situation you have experienced in your life and learn something from it. You do not have to succumb to self pity and fall victim. If there’s one thing I have learned is that nobody will understand what you have been through and most people don’t care. You only have yourself to rely on in changing your future. You have 2 choices: you either A) sit around dwelling on your past and blaming everyone else for your failings or B) you can grab your life by the balls, take back some control and start making the right decisions. We are 100% responsible for what we decide to do with our lives. We can only rely on ourselves.

Perhaps you have been through something similar or you lost your parents from a young age or suffered a different tragedy and you too went off the rails?

Are you living your truth?

Do you make decisions that feel wrong but you do it anyway because you think it’s the right thing to do?

Do you blame other people for the way your life has turned out?

Take a step back and reflect on your current circumstances. If you’re not happy ask yourself how you can change things. We all have the answers within if we look deep enough. Allow your intuition to guide you and your life will improve.

Remember: If it FEELS bad then don’t do it, if it FEELS good then go for it!

There’s always light in the dark.

Believe in yourself.

The power of meditation for manifestation

When I was first introduced to meditation I couldn’t grasp how anyone could shut the noise down out of their heads for a prolonged period of time. It really baffled me. I always thought that I was one of those people who would never be able to meditate because I have such an over active mind.

I was always thinking, I never stopped, not even in my sleep.This was the problem and the cause of so many of my anxieties.

Meditation is hard at first, but once you grasp it you will wonder why you didn’t do it sooner. It’s how you create miracles in your life. It helps calm you down, relieves stress and anxiety and helps you to connect to source energy.

Start practicing with just one minute a day, it’s a great start. You don’t have to block out all your thoughts – you just have to allow them to flow into your mind and then learn to let them go. I like to focus on the flame of a candle. I find it really helps me to focus.

Once I grasped how to do meditation I started using it to manifest my desires. Close your eyes or focus on the flame of a candle and really visualise what it is that you want. Really hold onto that vision and allow yourself to feel how it would feel to have it. Hold onto it for at least 17 seconds, they say this is the minimum amount of time required to manifest.

Do this everyday, become obsessed with it but once your practice is over you need to detach yourself from the outcome. When I say detach yourself from the outcome, I mean detach yourself emotionally because if your hold onto feelings of fear, disappointment or worry about receiving it, you will block the connection and stop the universe from answering your request. So in other words: focus on what you want with meditation, really feel how it would feel to have it and then take a step back, trust that universe has heard your request and then go about your day as normal without worrying whether it will happen or not.

I have manifested so many things this way…

My most recent manifestation involved the noisy neighbours who live above my new apartment. I tried everything to shut them up: complaining, knocking on their door, banging on the ceiling with my mop… this only left me frustrated and angry (which are both feelings that will lower your vibration) and so I decided to try a different approach: meditation.

I sat in a quiet room, lit a candle, took some deep breaths and visualised a silent apartment with no stress. I began to repeat in a whisper: “peace and quiet, peace and quiet”. I did this for some time whilst holding onto my vision of peace and quiet and guess what… my neighbours are nowhere near as noisy as they were. There is still some noise from time to time but it’s nowhere near as bad and I can live with it. So try this and see how it works out for you.

Peace and love xx

You can manifest whatever you truly want…

When I look back at my life, waaaay before I even knew about the law of attraction I had already manifested into my life everything that I wanted up to that point. It’s funny looking back on it. It astonishes me.

I’m here to help you realise that you can bring into your life whatever it is that you want. You can also bring what you don’t want if you focus on it too much so be careful and be aware of your thoughts.

Have you always been one of those people who A) say out loud what you will achieve by a certain age, stick to it and take action to achieve that goal?

Or do you

B) say one thing, then constantly change your mind because you can’t make a decision about what you really want?

If you answered yes to A then great! You’re on the right path to manifestation. If you answered yes to B then I believe you may have not yet achieved the life you truly want or deserve and may need some help.

It’s only the last few weeks that things have really hit me! I’ve realised that us humans are more powerful than we believe. I’m going to share with you a few things to help you become fully aware of the power within you, and share with you what has helped me along my path.

When I left school I initially only had 3 goals in life: 1) to have my own house 2) to have my own car and 3) to have a good job. I set this intention out loud because I refused to turn out like my parents (this is a whole other story). I remember saying this to myself all the time and guess what, by the age of 21 I had my own house, a car and was at university training to be a nurse. The first step is to be clear about what you want, feel it and say it out loud over and over again. Let the universe know that this is what you desire.

The second biggest goal in my life was to find a sensible man, who loved me for me and who could change my life. I hated where I lived and I was dying for an escape. At the time I was so insecure that I felt I needed security from a relationship to fulfil me. But again, I set the intention and willed it to happen every day. Sure enough I met an amazing man, with a good job, who was kind and gentle and took me away from the place I was living to start a new life.

When you think about it, this is pretty freaky stuff. But wait, it gets better….

you know the film ‘The twilight saga – breaking dawn, part 1’ where Bella gets pregnant and almost dies giving birth… don’t ask me why but I became obsessed with that film, I watched it over and over and over again. It was the pregnancy part of it that had me hooked. Law and behold I became pregnant unexpectedly and miraculously. I was recovering from a serious illness and was told I may struggle to conceive. I think it’s safe to say I manifested my pregnancy too! And what’s funny is that after I found out I was pregnant I never watched it again. So….the 2nd step is to become obsessed with what you want and don’t let it drop.

I have manifested several things into my life this way over the years: a dream job, new car, more money etc.

What I have also realised is that even when things don’t turn out the way you want them to initially- is because the universe has bigger plans for you and things ALWAYS work out in the end. Let me elaborate on this a bit more….

in 2015 my when my son was 2, I was working in the city centre (at my dream job that I manifested) and finding the journey there and back very stressful. I didn’t mind the journey so much before I was a mum but being a parent changes your priorities. If I needed to get home to my son it would take me 1 hour and 30 mins depending on traffic! So I said out loud “by the time my son starts school, I’ll be working from home”. Again, I set the intention and held it in my mind. Things started to go wrong with my job, I decided to leave anyway and I started working at a place that I really hated. The only great thing about it was the money. Working here led me to the job I’m doing now, and guess what…. my son starts school in 8 months and where am I working?? … yep, I’m working from home!

So when things seem to be falling apart, take a step back and let the universe do its thing. It’s got your back! – this is step 3.

The past 3 months is when i have truly realised the power that’s within us. We are literally just energy and our thoughts and feelings become our reality.

A friend of mine told me about a book by Gabriella Bernstein ‘the universe has your back’ – it’s awesome. Read it if you’ve not already. I started watching her on YouTube and came across a mantra called Ek Ong Kar which she uses to meditate and manifest her desires. I downloaded this on ITunes and began to repeat the song/mantra whilst really focusing on my desires. At this time I had decided I was leaving my relationship and I was going through a really difficult time. I had seen a house that I really wanted to live in. I loved the area it was in, the convenience and the feeling I got when I was in the area so I began to focus upon this whilst meditating and repeating the mantra. I really focused on what my house would look like inside, how it would smell and how happy and free I would feel.

The house that I really wanted was number 1 Elan Place. I began to drive around the area, I shopped in the area and I would envision me and my son living there and being really happy.

3 months later, here I am, all moved into my new place, feeling happy and free. It’s not quite number 1 Elan Place but it’s number 1 Wallis court and it’s directly across the road! It smells how I imagined, the furniture inside is how I imagined and it’s damn close enough! Now that’s the power of manifestation for you.

Step 4 – really focus and visualise in your mind what it is that you want and hold onto that thought whilst feeling how it would feel to have it. You need to be like a dog with a bone and not let things drop.

You wanna know something else that’s freaky? The weeks leading up to me moving into my new place I was seeing a lot of number 11’s, 12’s and 13’s – which is my sons date of birth. When I was coming out of the front door of my new place, I looked up and saw that directly across from me are apartments 11, 12 and 13. Coincidence you may say? There is no such thing as a coincidence. It’s the universe’s way of sending you messages.

So to re-cap:

1) be clear about what you want and say it to yourself over and over again.

2) Become obsessed with what you want.

3) Take a step back and let the universe do its thing. In other words don’t worry about it.

4) really focus, visualise and feel it.

5) Take action.

This is beginning to become quite fun, I’m excited to see what I can manifest next.

Peace and love as always xx

The reality of being alone after a breakup.

What happens after the chaos comes to an end? When the dust settles? When you’re literally all moved out, keys handed back and you’re sat in your new place on your own? It feels so weird. The sadness comes over you as you realise that it’s the end of an era. That the part of your life you never thought would end is over.

You spent so many years together, had good and bad times, children, raised pets together, had the most amazing wedding, build a home together, held each other’s hands and fought like cat and dog.

And now there’s just silence….and memories.

Going through a break up of any kind is really hard. It’s difficult in so many ways. You start remembering all the good times and mostly forget about the bad times. Why does this happen? You know you broke up for a good reason but once it’s actually happened you forget that reason.

This is the trick your subconscious mind plays on you to protect you. It’s the gravitational force of your comfort zone that tries to pull you back to what you knew and this is why so many people break up, then get back together, but then they break up again, then get back together…and round and round they go.

People break up for a reason. You must remember that reason and hold it in your mind whenever you’re even remotely tempted to pick up your phone and text your ex. Don’t be afraid of being alone. There’s nothing to be afraid of.

I’m currently sat on the floor of my new, empty apartment writing this, remembering why I broke up with my ex and appreciating my newly found freedom. Sure, I’m petrified. I feel uncomfortable, scared, uneasy, unsure. I’m worrying about everything. Where and how do I start again after spending almost a decade of my life in chaos and now it’s all peaceful and calm. It’s bound to feel strange. Anything new is strange at first but give yourself time and you will adapt.

Beyond the storm there’s calm, and even sunshine and rainbows.

I have faith that in time everything will fully heal and it will all be worth it. There’s only one way to go now and that’s forward. So push past the discomfort, the unease and the uncertainty and give yourself time to find you again. Don’t settle for a life or a relationship that no longer serves you all because you’re feeling a little (or a lot) uncertain and afraid.

We got this!

Peace and love xx

How big are your balls?

Too many people in this world rely on others to save them instead of saving themselves. What I have realised along my journey is that taking 100% responsibility for yourself, your decisions, your actions and your own life is the key to peace, strength, independence and the best way to avoid disappointment.

Being molly-coddled is one of the worst things that your parents could ever do to you because when you reach adulthood and the shit hits the fan you won’t know what to do and won’t be able to cope. Don’t get me wrong, I think it’s really important to shower your children with love but what I don’t agree with is wrapping them up in cotton wool all the time. Teaching our children responsibility and problem solving will greatly benefit them in the long run.

Being a single mum and living 40 miles away from the nearest family member gives me no option than to stand alone. Thank goodness! I feel like Tom Hanks in Castaway – teaching myself how to survive and it’s great!

Being independent is one of the greatest gifts we can ever have. Never having to rely on anyone but ourselves. It’s creates so much more contentment and freedom in your life. It teaches you to appreciate yourself, to respect yourself and to stand up and fight for what you want because you sure as hell won’t get anyone else doing it for you.

It creates a strength in you that wouldn’t otherwise be there if you had to rely on other people.

So be brave! Own your shit! Accept full responsibility for your life and own your problems. Then when your friends and family are there for you, it will be an extra special bonus and will make you appreciate them more.

Sometimes we do need people around us, after all no man is an island but for the most part do stuff for yourself. Be your own superhero.

Peace and love xx

Feeling uncomfortable when going through big changes is completely normal. This is something I’ve recently discovered. You feel anxious, uncertain, scared and a little bit nuts but this is all part of change.

We are usually so afraid of these feelings that it stops us from taking the plunge and moving forward in our lives. You see, our comfort zone is our prison. Sure it feels nice but does it really serve us? … no. Does anything really amazing ever come from it? … no.

Life goes way beyond the comfort zone. Be brave! Make the decision that’s been in your heart for a while no matter how scary or uncertain things may seem and allow yourself to feel uncomfortable. It’s part of the process. Once you’re past this, and it will pass, you’ll reap the rewards.

If you want nothing to change in your life then by all means – stay within your comfort zone.

I’m still feeling uncertain and a little on edge but I have faith in the universe. This will change. It’s inevitable. It’s the law of life. The only certainty other than death is change.

So be brave! Close your eyes, grit your teeth and just go for it. What’s the worst that can happen?

Peace and love as always xx

Happiness. It’s an inside job.

How many of us say “I just wanna be happy”. I’ll be happy when….

I meet the man/woman of my dreams

I win the lottery

I land my dream job

I move house

…. the list goes on.

What I have come to realise is that happiness comes from within yourself. It cannot be created alone from another person or object. Sure, these things can enhance or contribute towards your happiness but they certainly can’t be responsible for the foundations of it. That must come from you.

Up until recently I never realised this myself and I too used to be one of those people who put my happiness in the hands of another person or object. I had a serious spending problem and I would spend money like it was going out of fashion. I was obsessed with having the best clothes, hair style, make up etc. I always thought that I would be happy if I had all these things. I also used to think that if I had a good man by my side then this would also make me happy.

What I have come to realise is that I used to buy all these things to fill a void deep within me. You see, having the best material things can only make you happy short term. The happiness never lasts and so off you go again, spending more money, trying to fill the void.

When our lives are out of balance in one area we try and over compensate with someone or something else, whether this be food, clothes, jewellery, relationships, sex and so on. Instead, we must recognise this imbalance and look inside ourselves to correct the problem.

The moment we rely on an external source to make us happy, the more we become unhappy. We are 100% responsible for our happiness. In fact, we are 100% responsible for our lives in all areas.

Now you’re probably wondering – “well how do I make myself happy?”

– You start by working on you!

You start by working on yourself and putting yourself first. You cannot pour from an empty cup. You must fill yourself up first. No matter how busy your life is, whether you are married, single or have kids you have to make time for yourself every single day!

Here’s how I created my own happiness to the point where i ended my 8 year relationship that no longer served me, how I stopped spending money and how I no longer worry about being alone because I’m just so damn content! If anything else comes along, well that’s just an added bonus but for now I’ll be quite happy on my own.

1) I started taking care of myself. I started making time to go the gym and making sure I ate healthy most of the time. You’ve gotta look after yourself. Otherwise you’ll be sorry when you end up with diabetes or heart disease. Once you start really taking care of yourself you start to feel amazing and it improves your self esteem. Eat crap – feel crap. Eat good – feel good. It’s that simple.

2) I practise gratitude every single day. This truly makes you recognise all the amazing things you have in your life.

3) I started reading personal development books to help me learn and grow and contribute to becoming my greatest version.

4) I started saying no. If you really feel deep within that you don’t want to do something then say no. Don’t worry about what the other person thinks of you. They’ll soon forget about it anyway. It’s only you that worries about it.

5) I stopped caring what other people think. I used to be a ‘people pleaser’ – this is total BS. The more you care what others think, the more you hold yourself back. We get one life in this physical body so we must be ourselves and live our truth! If we lose people in the process, so what. They weren’t meant to be in our lives anyway.

6) I started appreciating myself for who I am and stopped criticising myself so much. We are not perfect! Perfect is boring. Embrace your flaws, they are what make you unique. We are human BE-ings not human DO-ings so just be who you are. Embrace all sides of your personality.

7) I started smiling more. The next time you’re in a bad mood, smile and see what happens. You’ll be surprised how faking a smile can actually lift your mood. Hold it long enough until you burst out laughing for looking like an idiot.

8) I started spending more time with myself and my thoughts and learnt how to meditate. I feel so much more chilled these days. It works wonders.

9) I started limiting my use of social media. The more time you spend on social media the worse you’ll feel. It’s full of false information and people portraying their lives as ‘perfect’. Nobody has a perfect life but seeing this will only make you feel inadequate and depressed. You start comparing yourself to others or competing. It’s exhausting! In fact, I’m not on any social media platforms at the moment and I get so much more done with my day.

10) I stopped complaining all the time. I used to complain about everything. Sure, we all complain at times. It’s natural but be aware of when you are complaining and try to turn it around with gratitude. For example you may complain about your spouse but then you can turn this around by praising them for something nice they have done. If you can’t think of anything you may need to reconsider your relationship. Also, try 24 hours without complaining about a single thing and see what happens.

Just be who you want to be and do what you want to do. It doesn’t mean that you’re selfish. It’s about putting your needs first so you can make sure you give those around you the best of you. Everyone benefits when you put yourself first. You’ll be truly happy which is what most people can only dream of.

I haven’t bought any clothes or had my hair done since July last year because what I realise is all that I need is inside of me and all around me, although a trip to the hairdresser may be needed soon – The Greys are starting to make an appearance.

Peace and love to you all xx

Gratitude. It’s life changing.

How many of us really think about what we have and are grateful? I never used to. I was totally unaware.

After watching ‘The secret’ back in 2014 I started a gratitude journal. I found it difficult at first because I had never had to really think about it before. I started scribbling: I am grateful for my job, my money, my car etc with not much thought or feeling behind it. I was just writing. This is not the way to do it by the way, it’s pointless! The secret is to put your feelings into it. Once I learned this, things started to shift.

Everyday, either in the morning, the evening or at random times, I will either say out loud or in my head what I am truly grateful for. If you really think about it, your feelings will naturally flow and you will be able to make the emotional connection that is required.

No matter how bad your life may seem there will ALWAYS be something to be grateful for. Being thankful will raise your vibration in the universe and attract more positivity into your life, in all areas. Once you stop being grateful your vibration will drop and you will no longer receive the abundance of the universe.

This happened to me last year. It’s easy to stop being grateful when we experience bumps in the road and it’s easy to take abundance for granted. Something in which I will never do again. After practising gratitude for some months my life improved in all areas, especially my finances. For the first time in my life I was earning a lot of money. I had managed to save £9000 whilst having a great time. This made me become complacent and I stopped practising gratitude. I had started to take it for granted and law and behold a few months later I was miserable and flat out broke!

What the hell had I done with all that money? I have no idea.

What I do realise is that when I was grateful everyday I was extremely happy, content and focused. When I stopped I became miserable and disconnected. Being grateful helps you to clearly recognise all the good and amazing things you have in your life. Things in which you usually wouldn’t give a second thought. It’s a miraculous practice.

You can literally be grateful for anything and everything. Once you start practising and you’re consistent it will become second nature to you.

For example: This morning I was grateful that I woke up and got to see my sons beautiful face. I was grateful for the coffee I drank to wake me up, I was grateful for my car because it allowed me to drive 16 miles to the only store that had the lamp I wanted, I was grateful for my money as it allowed me to purchase the lamp. You see you can be grateful for everything. Once you relate gratitude with a reason it allows the emotional connection behind it to raise your vibration.

Everyday I practise this. It’s life affirming. I urge to try this everyday. You don’t have to write it down, you can say it in your head or out loud at any time you want to.

I even do it to heal the pain from the past. For example; I say – I am so grateful for all my life experiences, they have shaped me into the woman I am today and I am grateful for my inner strength and the ability to empathise, this would not be possible without the pain I have experienced, thank you.

Saying ‘Thank You’ and feeling gratitude for everything that you are and everything that you have will transform you in a way you could never imagine.

Peace and love to you all xx

Are you seeing numbers in sequence everywhere?

In 2014 I discovered ‘The Secret’ by Rhonda Byrne. I cannot remember how, when or why, all I remember is the year because this is when I started a gratitude journal after watching this. This completely blew my socks off and made me question life and look at things in a completely different way. It opened the door to metaphysics and gave me a greater understanding of the universe.

When I sit and reflect, I now realise that since I discovered the law of attraction, things started changing. My life moved for me, the paths that were laid out of for me have led me to where I am in this very moment. It’s quite amazing. Before discovering this I was quite closed off to the world and was walking around in what seemed like a fog everyday.

Life started to improve in all areas for me since I became aware of a higher power: source, the universe, god, the angels or whatever else you want to call it. I have never been a religious person but I have always had a spiritual side which is now in full form. It wasn’t until 2016 that I began to see numbers in sequence. It started off where I would notice it was 11:11am or 111 miles left on my petrol tank and it was happening everyday. 111 was in my phone number and my job title. It took me a while to actually realise what was happening, however, I wasn’t in tune with this for a long time. In fact it took me until 2017 to think “why do I keep seeing these numbers? What does this mean?”.

So I did what all humans do when we want an answer to something. I googled it. There it was, the answer I had been looking for. Turns out it’s actually quite common and happens to millions of people all around the world.

Numbers in sequence are messages from the universe. Do not ignore them. It is valuable guidance from the universe to keep you moving towards your true life purpose and to let you know that you are protected from a higher source. I started seeing more and more numbers in sequence after I discovered this, it was like my eyes truly opened. I was seeing not only 11:11 and 111 but I was seeing 222, 333, 444, 555, 666, 777, 888, 999, 000. They were literally everywhere I turned and certain days were focused more on a particular number depending what was happening in my life, and it was strangely very accurate. Also, my son – who was a miraculous conception was born on 11/12/13 at 1:23pm! How can this be a coincidence? There are no coincidences! That is what I have come to realise.

Since this, I have been sent other signs. Seeing the same type of animal a few times, in particular; a snake and feathers – white feathers, grey ones and brown ones, where the hell do these come from? To know that we are guided and protected from a higher source when we allow ourselves to be is an incredible gift. For the first time in my entire life I feel a sense of inner peace that I have never experienced before. I am transitioning through my spiritual awakening and it’s a beautiful thing. My intuition has heightened so much that even Mystic Meg would be intimidated!

Some of you will think I’m nuts but some of you will be able to relate to this and some of you will start noticing things after reading this. Here’s a short guide on what the angel numbers mean, in case you were wondering:

000 – Your energy in every moment has an impact on what you’re creating. Stay positive, think about and focus upon what you want to see and experience, and know that when you open your heart, elevate your vibration and link with the Divine and with your angels anything is possible.

111 – Pay attention to your thoughts! In every moment your thoughts, emotions and your beliefs are playing a huge role in what will manifest in your experience. Stay positive and focus on what you want while releasing doubts, worries and fear over to the angels, the universe and into the light. Number 1 also represents the beginning of something.

222 – You’re on the right track, in the right place at the right time. Trust and stay focused on what you want rather than what you don’t want. Everything is working out according to Divine will for the highest and greatest good.

333 – This is a reminder that the Divine, the angels, the universe and the ascendant masters are working with you on a number of levels to make your dreams a reality. Get clear about what you want, ask for help, and take action to co-create a beautiful life experience.

444 – This is a sign that your angels are with you, supporting you, guiding you and assisting you with unconditional love and frequency. All is well. Remember to listen to your intuition and to ask your angels for help.

555 – Huge changes are unfolding throughout all areas of your life according to Divine will. The message however isn’t to sit back and be a passive recipient. It is a call from the universe and the angels to choose yourself and to co-create positive change and blessings into your life now.

666 – Don’t be afraid if you see 666, but do know that this is a sign from the angels that it’s time to wake up to your spiritual truth. Return to balance, refocus on being present in the moment and your next step on your personal spiritual path to heal your mind, body, spirit and emotions.

777 – You’re in the flow of Divine magic and on the right track towards manifesting your dreams and goals into reality. 777 brings the confirmation that you’ve been hearing and listening to Divine guidance and taking steps to heal and improve your life and it’s working!

888 – Be ready for changes to unfold, knowing that ultimately they are aligning you with increased prosperity and abundance. 888 is a reminder from your angels that when you embrace the changes, opportunities and ideas you have now, they will positively improve your life.

999 – Embrace the changes happening within and around you so you can get to work on your life purpose. This is also a sign that you are a lightworker and that it’s time to take steps to live in alignment with your authentic soul purpose.

11:11 – Seeing 11:11 is an invitation to wake to experiencing the bigger picture and to start tuning into the realms of spirit. 11:11 represents a gateway. Take a breath, quieten your mind and focus within to tune into the messages your guides and angels have for you now.

keep an open mind, don’t close yourself off and you’ll be amazed at how much your life will improve.

Peace and Love to you all xx

Starting again

Anyone starting the new year single?

Starting again especially after a few years of being in a relationship can be really difficult, scary and totally overwhelming. It’s the fear of the unknown, what will you do? Where will you live? What’s going to happen with the kids, work, the house etc.

I too am going through a separation after 8 years and we also have a beautiful little boy in the midst of all this. What has helped me get through this is learning to trust that everything will be fine and having faith. I am very optimist about the future regardless of all this because I know that everything happens for a reason. Everything happens in divine timing. Sometimes it’s hard making sense of it all but it will all come to light in the end.

I decided to end my relationship because deep down I wasn’t happy and staying with my ex would have been a selfish thing because he deserves to be happy and I couldn’t love him in the way he wanted any longer. I stayed as long as I did for my son’s sake but doing this will only result in unhappiness, resentment and bitterness. It’s sometimes best to do what’s right for you. After all, 2 happy homes is far better than 1 unhappy home. Children aren’t stupid, they know when you’re unhappy, they can sense things and what I have learnt is that cutting ties from a toxic relationship will benefit everyone in the long run.

If you have thought about moving out but you’re too scared to actually do it because of the fear of starting again on your own, you need not to be scared. You’ll be ok. You WILL be totally ok. I promise. When you make the right decisions the universe will get behind you. The worst thing you can do for everyone is to continue living a lie.

I started by looking at my finances, and working out what I could afford, what I couldn’t afford and writing a plan and making a budget, taking into consideration my wages and any extra help I was entitled to. Doing this will make you realise that financially anything is possible regardless of your income. There’s always help for those who don’t earn much money. You can look this up on http://www.entitledto.co.uk this is great for those of you with children or low earnings and are afraid that you may not manage. You’ll be surprised what you’re entitled to.

The next thing I did was decide where I wanted to live and I started looking around the area at properties that were available. I started visiting the area almost everyday, shopping at the shops in that area, visiting the local costa and setting the scene for my new life. I took my son out for tea in the local pub in the area, and walked around the streets in the area that I liked the most and started visualising what my home would look like. After all, energy flows where your attention goes. If you start to focus on what you want everyday you can start to manifest your desires.

Initially I wasn’t too sure how I was going to get the money together to pay for a deposit, or buy furniture because I literally had nothing to my name. Everything in my house was my ex partners, I owned nothing. I didn’t focus too much on this though, I just kept my attention on what I wanted. Every night I would envision what my new life would look like, and I would feel happy and content. I knew in my heart that I was making the right decision and so I had no negative emotions pulling me back. The same can happen for you too. If you know deep down that you are not happy and that you are living a life that doesn’t fulfil you then you can live with a clear conscience. Nothing good can come from living a lie. Not in the end.

It literally only took 2 months of pure focus and determination for me to make my dreams a reality. I am now moving into an apartment in the area where I wanted to live, my finances are in order, my son understands and he is fine, and my ex has come to terms with things. You see it’s not so scary after all. Trust that you’ll be ok and you will be. What’s the worst that can happen? Pain is temporary remember.

I have learnt that you can be really strong when you’ve no other option. That when you make the right decisions for everyone the universe will get behind you and help to make your dreams a reality. Have faith. You will get through this. I read a quote in a book that has really helped me along this journey: ‘when taking great leaps forward, life often turns to shit before it turns to shinola’. This is so true. You create your reality and you’ve spent a lifetime creating the one you’re in now. You have the power to make the changes you desire.

So don’t be afraid, you’re going to be fine. I’ve learned to just ‘go with it’. Keep a positive mind, do what you feel you have to do. Life has a way of turning things around for those who believe they will be fine and knowing they are doing the right thing.

Good luck with your new life.

Peace and love xx

5 ways how to move forward with your life in 2018.

Do you feel stuck?

Have you been doing the same things year after year and you’re bored with your life?

Here’s some tips to help you get un-stuck in 2018 and move forward.

1) Remove toxic people from your life once and for all.

Do you ever spend time with people who literally suck the life out of you? I used to. There’s certain people in your life who make you feel mentally and emotionally drained after spending more than 5 minutes in their company. These are who I like to call ‘energy vampires’ . These people have a permanent negative state of mind and no matter what you’re doing, what you’re saying or how you’re being they will have something negative to say about it. They will constantly complain about how bad their life is, how unfortunate they are, how much they hate their job, their spouse, their kids, blah blah blah. These are the people who will never clap when you’re winning, will never pay you a compliment or be happy for you. These people can be friends, family members or even partners. If you spend most of your time with people like this you will end up subconsciously being programmed to their way of thinking, like it’s normal. It’s a fact that you become the average of the 5 people you spend your time with the most. This is why you must choose your people wisely. Look at the people you spend the most time with and ask yourself; do they lift me up? Do they make me feel happy? Do they make me feel alive? Excited? Strong? OR do they make me feel sad, deflated, negative, bored? It’s simple. Do they have a negative impact on your life or a positive impact? After spending time with them you should be able to decide whether you feel good or bad. You know how you feel.

I was friends with a girl for 13 years, we had a great friendship to start with and we made some amazing memories but she could never be happy for me. She mostly used to put me down in front of everybody, belittle me, laugh at me (not with me) and just made me feel shit!After belittling me for the last time in the pub, in front of my friends and my mum I’d had it and decided there and then that enough was enough. I cut ties with her. Deleted her number and blocked her from my life. I didn’t speak to her for 2 years. I knew that if I carried on spending time in her company I would never be able to move forward with myself and my life because of the negativity. It drove me crazy.

I did the same thing with a man who I had spent almost 8 years with. I wasn’t happy when I was with him and I always felt uncomfortable, stuck and frustrated. He too had a mostly negative state of mind and it ground me down. I had to end this relationship for my own growth and sanity. I have done this with several people in my life, including family members. Sometimes you have to. You don’t deserve to be made to feel guilty, or bad, or sad for simply wanting to be who you want to be. Remove these people from your life no matter how difficult it may seem and if they are meant to be in your life, they will be. Some people have re-entered my life and I’m still able to be me because they know where they stand.

You get one life in this physical body, you have to make it the best you can. Otherwise you’ll look back one day when you’re old and regret living a life that has not served you. Why shouldn’t you be happy, successful and free to be who you want to be? You do not serve the world or yourself by shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. Remember that.

2) Take a chance

How many of us have dreams and never even try to peruse them because we are too afraid of failure or the consequences? Let me tell you something failure does not exist. It’s an illusion. You never had it in the first place so if it doesn’t work out you’re no worse off. BUT, what if it does work out? How amazing would that be! You will never know unless you try. It may be hard to go after your dreams but nothing worthwhile is ever easy. I’m telling you that it’s so much better to look back knowing that you tried and it didn’t work out than to look back knowing that you didn’t even try. That’s far worse and regret is one of the worst emotions you can ever feel. You owe it to yourself to at least try. Life is beyond your comfort zone. Your comfort zone is your prison. Feel the fear and do it anyway. You won’t die, you’ll be ok.

Just do it.

Remember that whatever happens you’ll learn something. So it’s a win-win situation.

3) learn to say NO

Are you one of these people who always say YES because you’re too afraid of hurting people and too afraid of what people may think of you? This is total BS. In fact, people are less likely to respect you if you say yes all the time. They won’t think any better of you so respect yourself and say no. If it doesn’t feel right for you then say NO! What I have learnt is that by saying no you are being kind to yourself. You are valuing yourself and this in turn will make others value you more also.

So the next time your boss asks you to do overtime and you really don’t want to do it then say no! The next time someone asks you to lend them some money and you don’t really want to, say no and stick to it! This is the key. Say no and then stick to it. There’s no point saying no and then after 5 minutes of begging from the other person you give in. That defeats the object. You must put your own needs first. Yes, it’s nice to do things for people but sometimes you have to say no or you’ll be associated as being a push-over and nobody has any respect for a push-over and when you do decide to say yes, this will make people appreciate you more.

So respect yourself and say NO if it doesn’t coincide with your values.

4) Lighten up

What you worrying about? Money? Your relationship? Your kids?

Did you know that 85% of what we worry about doesn’t even happen. That’s a lot of pointless shit flying around in our heads. It’s like walking around on a sunny day with an umbrella waiting for it to rain. Absolutely pointless.

When we worry, we are not living in the present moment. We are either stuck in the past or worrying about what may happen in the future. The real troubles in our lives are things that haven’t even crossed our minds. None of us know what’s going to happen in the future. The key to happiness is being present in the moment. The next time you find yourself worrying, realise it and look around you. What can you see, touch, hear and smell? This will bring you back to the present moment and make you realise that you are worrying about something that is not real. It’s not happening or it’s not happening anymore. To be truly at peace you must be in the present.

Lighten up.

Remember that you came onto this earth with nothing so it doesn’t matter if you leave with nothing. Stop worrying and enjoy the ride. Take risks, have fun, stop caring about what others think of you, be silly, be happy, love unconditionally, let down your boundaries.

Live your life.

5) work on YOU.

working on yourself is one of the most valuable things you can ever do, both personally and professionally. I’ve said this before in a previous blog and I’ll say it again: you can’t pour from an empty cup. You must learn to fill yourself up first.

Love yourself. I’m not talking about being conceited, I’m talking about loving yourself unconditionally for who you are. All your flaws and all your strengths. The only way you can do this is to work on you.

Mind

Read personal development books, learn a new skill, watch tutorials, listen to podcasts or audio books. The only way to move forward with your life, your work and your relationship is to grow as a person. The only certainty in life other than death is change, so if you don’t change with life then you will stop living and will only exist. Most people die at the age of 18 and don’t get buried until the age of 80. Do you want that to be you? People tell me that I’ve changed and you know what I say? “Thank god for that”. It means I’m living!

Body

Be mindful of what you’re eating. Respect your body and your health, exercise daily and take care of your body. Do it now because you’ll regret it later in life if you get diagnosed with a chronic illness. By then it’s too late. Most illnesses and health issues can be prevented. It only takes 21 days to create a new habit and 90 days to create a new lifestyle. Imagine who you could become within 3 months of consistent dedication to your health. Eat foods with minimal ingredients. Foods that expire in a short amount of time. Fresh, whole, unprocessed foods.

Soul

Spend time with yourself. How many of us sit waiting for a bus or a train or a friend and we get our phones out and start looking on the internet or Facebook because we simply don’t know how to be with ourselves. At first, it’s really hard being alone with ourselves. It feels uncomfortable and awkward. But why? Why can’t we just be with ourselves? It because we don’t know how. Every week I want you to spend 1 full hour being with yourself. No tv, tablet or phone. No newspaper or book. Just you, on your own with your own thoughts. Get to know yourself. Learn to meditate. Meditation helps you uncover and reprogram your subconscious mind and helps you to become your greatest version. How do you expect other people to understand you if you don’t understand yourself?

Avoid watching or listening to the news too much. It’s full of negative information. It programmes you with negative thoughts and emotions. Talk about filling your glass up with dirty water! I hardly ever watch the news. Some people may call me ignorant, but I avoid it for my own peace of mind. You’ll be surprised how much better you feel when you stop watching the news or reading news papers.

Have the most amazing 2018!

Peace, love and happiness to you all xx